Wednesday, September 10, 2008

LOSING A FRIEND

IMs popped up all at the same time as my sister opened her Yahoo Messenger. They all came from her friends back home... "DORIS IS GONE".. Basically what the messages conveyed. She must know someone with that name. Tried hard enough to remember for some Doris(es) in her life. Even tried some denial (our mind's coping mechanism to expel the unacceptable) but availed her nothing. She doesn't know any Doris... except her bestfriend.


How can Doris leave in such a cruel manner?

Three months ago before she left for Canada, they had a little misunderstanding. My sister left the country without saying goodbye to her. No chat sessions followed (which they usually enjoy doing when they're apart), and deliberately did not greet Doris on her birthday. But Doris is now gone forever. They will never have the chance to talk anymore. Maybe patch up their misunderstanding which is so puny, it's undeserving to let it harm their friendship.. She will terribly miss the outpour of her happy disposition. Her giggles. Her endless story-telling.. All about her! Doris' death is completely hard to comprehend.. My sister broke down. Cried for hours. And for days.


MORALE OF THE STORY:

- Don't ever let any misunderstanding get in the way to any good relationships

-Life is too short. Don't take your loved ones for granted. You'll never know how many or little is left in our lifetime.


I can't imagine the same story happening to me. One of my barkadas, dead. That's totally out of the picture! Purely insane! Yet.. very much a reality. I so love these people. The people who have grown up with me. From my pretentious teen-age life until becoming comfortable in my own skin. From taking baby steps (after graduation) so we can find our place in the real world(corporate world/adult world). Until having to teach our own kids with their baby steps too so they can learn to walk in life on their own (family life/parenthood)... I have journeyed with them. And I just can't imagine one of them gone in my life forever.


( my friends, below) diamonds I have stumbled upon...




















11 comments:

piebuko said...

Ouch!
I know you're right, but I am being stubborn -- still refusing to make amends. :)

LOREN said...

Piebuko--
Sometimes (or oftentimes) when pride over rules me, I forget about reconciliation. So this story from my sister is a great reminder for me.

Mayet said...

We lost a friend a long time ago and it was painful, we didn't have any fight, but finding about her death on the way to visit her was just heartbreaking. Instead of being welcome by her, we were led to her "resting place".

LOREN said...

Mayet--
I can (or can't) imagine. Losing a friend is a heart-rending blow.

Tani said...

That's so sad. True. We shouldn't let petty misunderstandings get in the way of keeping in touch with our beloved friends.

Heart of Rachel said...

The thought of losing a friend in life is so sad. We should really make it a point to show the special people in our lives how much they mean to us.

LOREN said...

Tani--
Yes, I guess that's the big lesson I got from this story and will always remind myself not to commit the same mistake my sister did.

LOREN said...

Rach--
Losing a friend is really sad. Especially if the friends you keep are DIAMONDS.

Iskabitchy said...

When we are faced with our own mortality, we treasure life more and we try our very best to hold on to what we have in life - true friends, family and loved ones. I am so fortunate to have you in my life.
Ay, weytaminit, parang LS ang dating!
Love you, Bes!

sardonicnell said...

it's one hard lesson learned. but i'm sure DORIS smiles at your sister from heaven. and there isn't a hint of grudge in her...

LOREN said...

Iskabitchy---
We take our loved ones for granted, maybe thinking "magkakabati din kami". Or "next time na lang ako tatawag". So every now and then we really have to be reminded of mortality.. Love u bes!

Nell---
I'm pretty sure of that Nell! Thanks.